Sex Advice & Spice! With Dr. Melanie Davis, CSE

Welcome to Sex Advice & Spice, where your sex questions are answered and sprinkled with tips that will add spice to your sex life.

Too Tired for Sex

Dear Dr. Melanie, My husband and I have been married for 2 years and we’ve been together 7 years. I’ve noticed since our last child that between all the work I do and caring for the kids, that I never wanna have sex with my husband. I still love him and find him attractive but I’m just always tired and just don’t find sex appealing. I’m never in the mood. I feel bad for him, but working 2-3 jobs a day with no break from our 4 children, I just don’t want anything to do with it. Is there something wrong with me? Dear Tired – I’m exhausted from reading your...

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When the Flame Fizzles

Dear Dr. Melanie, My fiance and I have been together for almost 18 months now. When we first got together the sex was often and amazing. It lasted a very long time, and I usually had multiple orgasms. Lately I am lucky if we have sex 3 times a month, and when we do it is very short and I rarely orgasm even once. He says that he is still very attracted to me and wants me, but I feel like he doesn’t anymore. I feel like he may be wanting to leave and just doesn’t want to hurt me and my 2 children that have grown to love him. I know I am probably just reading too much into this, but...

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Lost That Lovin’ Feeling

Dear Dr. Melanie, I am a Fantasia Rep and I have a customer who has tried even our best toys for stimulation and says it does nothing for her. She has been through a surgery several years ago and somehow, for what reason I can’t come up with, during the surgery the tip of her clitoris was snipped and now she has no feeling through her clitoris at all. I have tried to help her but she says that she still has no feelings there. and sex is just sex to her no orgasm or feelings of pleasure at all. Help! I don’t know what to do for her. Is there something she can try to get these...

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Spit or Swallow

Dear Dr. Melanie, A few of my customers have asked me how to push beyond their mental boundaries so they can swallow their partner’s ejaculation. I haven’t been able to help them because I too, have issues with it. Are there any mental exercises or re-training of thoughts to try and overcome this? Thank you! – Helpful Fantasia Rep Dear Helpful – The first step is to explore why the boundary exists. Were you pressured or forced to swallow at some point, so that doing it now brings back that bad memory? Did you get the message that body fluids are gross? Or that only “bad...

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The Long Road

Dear Dr. Melanie: I have been married 2 years and when my husband and I started dating he wouldn’t take so long to ejaculate but now he takes so long. If he masturbates it doesn’t take so long. I feel as if I’m doing something wrong. Should I feel this way? — Worried   Dear Worried, It would be helpful to have more information, including your ages and what you consider “so long.” The medical condition of delayed ejaculation refers to a period of more than 30 minutes from initial arousal to orgasm; however, much depends on lovemaking goals, how...

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Condom Fixes

Dear Dr. Melanie, I am a 24 year old male who just started having gay sex. I have trouble staying hard long enough to penetrate my partner. I don’t think it is an anxiety issue because I am able to get at stay hard during mutual masturbation and oral sex, but I lose the erection shortly after I put the condom on. Also I find it nearly impossible to get and stay hard without lubrication (I am circumcised). How can I stay hard long enough for penetration while wearing a condom under these conditions? Signed, Condom Trouble   Dear Condom Trouble, This is a great question that may...

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